Well, no, it’s not..
But why do you need a black dating site?
Online dating has evolved immensely and we have a niche for everything you can imagine! You can find dating sites for men who like big women, interracial dating sites, black women and white men only, Asian only, Jewish only, Lesbians only and the list goes on and nobody has any issues with these – there are even sites for people who wish to have affairs and people with STDs!
One thing we have managed to maintain in our ever-changing world is our freedom to have preferences in who we date. They say you cannot help who you fall in love with…however, you can help who you choose to date and give your time and energy to.
For many people their partner is a reflection of them and when it comes to marriage and commitment most people tend to stay close to home with regards to religion and culture and in doing so tend to have better rates of success. In the world of online dating we have more choice than ever before but what happens when you are not your preference’s preference!?
Dating in the 21st century is no joke.
But, with all the online tools that are available to us, it only seems to make things even more difficult – not easier!
So if you’re looking for some online dating tips, trust us, you’re not alone!
DO be honest
Honesty will always be the best policy. Evaluate the person that you are rather than the person you are pretending to be. If you’re 50 don’t say you’re 35 – even if you look it. This would eliminate disappointment on both ends because you’d rather have someone interested in you for who you truly are! Makes sense right? With that being said…
DO be realistic
An online dating or app site isn’t the time for you to get picky or unrealistic, nor is online dating as strict as a job interview. You should want the best for yourself but sometimes what’s best for you wouldn’t be seen in plain black and white. So get out there, go on a few dates and be realistic because finding someone who genuinely wants to get to know you is a start.
DO give people a chance
Sometimes what you have in your mind as “your type” really might not be, after all, if you were having luck dating “your type” you wouldn’t be resorting to online dating. So step outside of your comfort zone and see what happens. You’ll never know what the world has to offer if you don’t give it a chance.
DO enjoy the moment
Just because your search for true love is now via nontraditional means, this does make it any less fun or any less special. This is the time to try things you’ve never tried (within good reason of course) because when you least expect it, is when the sparks ignite.
DO bounce back from rejection
Odds are, you wouldn’t meet your prince/princess charming on date number 1. Also, don’t forget that online dating is probably one of the hardest ways to get to know someone because how much can you really gather from a short biography line? So, don’t let one bad date…or 10 get you down because they are a million fish in the sea ready and waiting for you to notice them!
DON’T [for the love of all things holy] talk about your exes
If your date happens to ask you about what happened (out of mare curiosity), this is still not the time to open the floodgates. There are just some things that you need to leave in the past and this is one of them.
DON’T be mean
Yes, the dating world can be quite cruel but this doesn’t mean that you should add to the cruelty that already exists. If someone genuinely reaches out to you and have no interest, be sure to thank them for reaching out (because it’s the decent thing to do) while expressing that you’re not interested (nicely).
DON’T be inappropriate
There is a difference between being quirky or expressing your fun natured side but thread cautiously because what you think might be funny, might be rude to someone else.
DON’T give out too much personal information
Online dating can be scary especially seeing that one can find out anything about you from the good ol’ internet. So be sure to not give too much information in the early stages – they don’t need to know your 4 middle names nor your last name – are they employing you? They don’t even need to know where you live nor do they need your number. Practice reasonable dating safety and only give personal information once you are comfortable.
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Are you looking for love online?
Chances are if you have not been catfished already it may happen to you soon…sorry!
Being catfished is simply someone faking a persona online and pretending to be someone else.
This person will go to the extent of making you believe they are exactly who they say they are.
You may end up falling in love with a person who does not actually exist.
That is crazy, right?
What if you discover that the person you fell in love with is a school kid behind the screen?
That would REALLY suck… :-/
Whether you met online through Facebook or an actual online dating app, you will probably see a lot of catfishing and fake profiles. These things happen and, to avoid being a victim,
I got you covered.
Here are 8 Tips on how not to get catfished while looking for love online.
1. Call the Person on Your Phone
One of the ways to get to know someone is by listening to their voice. If he or she refuses to talk to you on their phone, probably they are of the opposite gender. Always insist on a phone call to avoid being catfished.
3. Insist on Using Snapchat/Instagram/FaceTime
Who doesn’t have snap chat in the 21st century?
Are you for real if you can’t make the effort to download it ?
An excuse you will get here is that they are having trouble downloading it or their phones memory is full lmao.
5. Ask as Many Questions as Possible
People are smart liars BUT there will always be a way to catch one out…
The best way to get to know someone is by asking a lot of questions.
Ask questions…. pay attention to their reactions… peep their consistency.
You will definitely spot a liar depending on how they answer questions.
7. Note The Consistency of Their Stories
If their story is inconsistent then they probably have something to hide.
Pay attention to what he/she tells you and if certain information doesn’t add up, it might not be true.
2. Try Using Video Chat
They’ve probably already sent you a bunch of pics…
Just to be so sure that you are talking with the right person, a video chat will do.
This is the best way to avoid being catfished as you will see the person AND hear their voice. From the photos they’ve sent you, you can tell if it’s the same person. Just so you know, somebody who is catfishing you will avoid this by any means necessary. They’ll use excuses like ‘my cam isn’t working’….
4. Seems too Good to be True? It Probably is...
This one speaks for itself but….
If you come across a profile of a person that seems to be just too perfect, question yourself.
Go with your instincts my dear.
6. Do an Image Search
If you’ve ever watched the TV show catfish (if you haven’t maybe you should!) you will know that the first thing Nev and the other dude (I forgot his name) do is a Google Image Search.
Doing an image search will be a dead giveaway if the image appears elsewhere but the details don’t match.
Check for multiple profiles, details and names used. Also check their FB page and see if they have a reasonable number of friends and if they have people tagged in their photos or back and forth dialog etc.
8. If They are Asking for Money They are a Catfish
If they are asking for money they ARE a catfish.
You just started chatting with this person you’ve never met and they are asking for money.
For some tragic occurrence.
For a phone bill.
For some business deal they might miss out on… they will get creative with these reasons and appeal to the kind-heart you have.
It’s time to block them.
The Bottom Line
Whether you are an experienced dater or new to dating online, catfishing is one of these things you will inevitably come across.
Don’t let someone take you for a ride with their fake identity.
Applying these tips will help you to not fall for such traps online.