Kunyaza is a traditional sexual technique used in central Africa. It’s said to be the secret for women to have incredible orgasms…
Dr Nsekuye Bizimana, a Rwandan sex expert working in Germany, has actually made a study of the Kunyaza technique and written an entire book on it. But let’s just get into the meat of it and break the technique down for you good folk reading this…
The basic principle is simple and has been passed on by word of mouth in central African countries for at least 150 years.
The man takes hold of his penis and uses the head to tap the woman’s clitoris, labia, and vaginal opening.
He can move the rhythmic tapping around the vulva in circular or zigzagging movements. The tapping can be varied with rubbing, also using the tip of the penis.
There must be plenty of lubrication from the start. Otherwise, the tapping can be too aggressive on this sensitive area – a little saliva works wonders.
If, after a while, the man’s wrist gets tired, the woman can get hold of his penis and take over. And women also sometimes help out by holding open their labia to intensify the sensation.
2. Advanced Technique
In a more advanced version, the man puts his penis inside the woman’s vagina, again takes hold of it, and then moves it from side to side or round and round to stimulate the vagina on the inside. He can vary this with more conventional in-and-out thrusting.
In what Dr. Bizimana describes as the ‘classical’ kunyaza position, the man sits down and the woman sits in his lap facing him. But he says ‘less sportive’ people might prefer easier ‘modern’ positions, for example with the woman lying on her back and the man kneeling between her legs.
All this penis tapping and wiggling is supposed to have wondrous effects on women. For one thing, it’s said to trigger orgasm after orgasm. But its main reputation is that it produces female ejaculation – it makes women squirt.
The word kunyaza means ‘to urinate’. However, it’s not urine that women squirt from their vaginas, but lashings of milky vaginal fluid.
It is also known simply as ‘wet sex’. And much as they love it,
Rwandan men have a none-too-flattering nickname for women who are prone to lavish squirting: Shami ryıikivu, meaning ‘put a bucket under her’.
Should you try Kunyaza?
If you’re wondering whether it’s worth a try, sex researcher Sylvia Tamale, Ugandan sexuality teacher gave it the following glowing review:
‘I was truly ignorant about female ejaculation until I met my current lover. If your lover knows what he is doing, you’ll pour rivers and experience multiple orgasms at the same time.’
So you see, along with The 7 Powerful Sexual Rituals for Black Couples Guaranteed to Rejuvenate Their Sex Life
Adding Kunyaza to that list, you are definitely onto a winner with regards to keeping that flame ignited in your marriage!
The founding myth of kunyaza comes from Nyanza, although different theories circulate in other countries in the Great Lakes, where the practice exists on a smaller scale.
Nyanza was once the capital of the pre-colonial Kingdom of Rwanda; home to the Royal Palace of the monarchy, which is now a museum.
According to a myth passed down from generation to generation, during the third dynasty of the Rwandan monarchy the queen’s husband went away to war. Left unsatisfied by his absence, she instructed one of her royal guards to have sex with her. The guard was nervous, so when he went to obey his order his body trembled against her – his penis shook against her clitoris and labia, rather than penetrating.
This made the queen ejaculate for the first time. Upon his return, the queen asked her husband to perform this act on her. The ritualistic practice which helps women achieve kunyaza – crudely known in the West as squirting – was born.
The queen’s myth is revealing and, in many ways, surprising – at least from a Western perspective, where the idea of female ejaculation remains shrouded in mystery.
The queen proves herself to have needs that she finds a way of satisfying, demonstrating sexual independence and control over her body. Though this is much more common today, there are still many women around the world who do not have or do not feel that they have, these freedoms.
The last taboo…
The practice of kunyaza turns most Western – and African – conceptions of sex and gender politics on their head.Tabloid newspapers and radio talk shows in East Africa are full of segments about what makes a ‘good wife’ and the importance of women pleasing men, in and outside the bedroom. And in Western culture, where sex tends to be centered on the pleasure of a man, female ejaculation is taboo.
In 2014, the British Board of Film Classification joined Australia in banning female ejaculation in porn, supposedly because it also outlawed urolagnia (people urinating on each other for sexual pleasure) and it is difficult to tell the two apart.
Female ejaculation is not a rare phenomenon.
A recent UK survey found that almost 40 percent of the 1,250 women surveyed had ejaculated fluid at the moment of climaxing. Rwandans interviewed for this story said it’s fairly rare to find women who cannot achieve kunyaza – they are called mukagatare, a derogatory name in Kinyarwanda meaning ‘rock-woman’.
In Sacred Water (2016), a documentary about the practice, sexologist Vestine Dusabe estimates 80 or 90 percent of Rwandan women ‘have water’. What matters is the man’s ability to make it happen…
Brothers, if you are going to try Kunyaza, you are going to want to make sure you are also….reinforced for the occasion. Don’t just go in there willy-nilly :-p
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