If you make all the moves in the playbook on a black woman but you don’t get the reaction you desire, perhaps it’s not her, she is not feeling your vibe.
You may need to assess your situation, be honest with yourself and level up. There are rules to
successfully navigating the dating game and trying to meet a beautiful black woman is no exception.
I admit it’s not an easy task and even the most seasoned brothers sometimes struggle to attract and seduce their ideal woman…
But instead of watching these hot black women you want so badly walk right past you while you watch by the sideline, getting frustrated; it’s time to get your sauce in order and go for it, my guy!
Mind you, just like everything else dating and courting requires constant practice. There is no better way than to learn than to do it so quit fooling around, complaining and simply meet more women. Most importantly – make mistakes, go back to the drawing board and start to get confident and comfortable around beautiful black women. Confidence is a huge percentage of the game but here are some key points and proven ways to sweep a beautiful, single black woman off of her feet.
Know Your Strengths
As tricky as it sounds, be real for a moment and look deep with you and separate your strength and weakness.
Then work hard to reinforce your strengths in order to build attraction to those.
Simultaneously keep your weakness in check and make sure they don’t quickly show up as insecurities and ruin your chances.
Aim at making strong first impressions that will stand out.
Self-improvement is key…
That is where we build up likeability to the opposite sex because women are naturally attracted to secure men, so don’t rush to game your crush before you have yourself in check.
Be Available But Not Too Available
Black women thrive on your attention, however being overly present looks like you lack a life of your own outside of her.
She won’t admit it but this is the fastest way to turn her off. Be attentive, but don’t give her all of your attention. It screams desperate to her; create time for you to engage but also be scarce and give her the time to process the situation. This works by her missing you and growing fond of you in your absence.
Don’t Creep Her Out On Social Media
It’s cool to follow her Instagram but you don’t want to be the guy that comments on stuff she posted 9 years ago, trust me.
And, also refrain from commenting on each post 1 minute after it shows up – it doesn’t only look absurd but also seems thirsty. Black women do not like thirsty…it doesn’t matter how physically attractive you might think she is, keep most of your comments to yourself. Let those other dudes do all of that social media hunting, that way it’s better to stand out when you do make an impression.
Calculate the pace you engage her on social media and she will take you more seriously because honestly, the more laid back the man the more the woman becomes curious about him.
If you are serious about sweeping this beautiful black woman off her feet, and I mean serious – as in, you think something could be there and you are ready to put the work in for her… Pay attention to the details during conversations. Notice what subjects she sticks on and how her tone changes as she becomes passionate about something the speaks on. Takes note and later uses it as bait to start new conversations or to make an excuse for a meetup; she will be impressed. Be on her side and align with her interests that way she’ll be looking out for you when she needs to have a deeper conversation.
Be A Gentleman
Men with manners attract women a lot, no one likes a loud asshole who lacks manners and self-awareness. It is an instant turn off.
Being insensitive to a woman’s emotions raises red flags like hell, she takes you less seriously and asking her out will feel like a joke to her. Women feel safe and flock around men who have a sense of respect. Being gentle means you’re also secure within yourself.
Do Not Suffocate Her
Take the required time to get to know her. It doesn’t matter how strong you feel about her, the truth remains that you barely know her beyond her physical aura and the small talk. You still need to find out whether she is compatible with you or not.
If YOU even want something more with her, so try to start a deeper conversation and subtly ask the questions you need to determine this.
Avoid The "Friend Zone" At All Costs
Being a friend is cool BUT if you are here, then it is obviously not your main objective. She likely has tons of friends all over, so by all means necessary avoid the friends zone trap in the process of getting to know her. This means being the shoulders she cries on and complains about other men to – cut that out early. If you notice she only treats and sees you as a friend. You get the notion of this – if she suddenly diverts from deep talk to some irreverent stuff that doesn’t sit right with you be warned of the red flags when she starts the small talk reserved for her girlfriends; run for the woods.
Open Yourself Up
Pretty simple. You are going to have to take a risk with vulnerability if you want a chance with her, this means opening up a bit and sharing about yourself. Most women are used to dealing with or familiar with closed-off guys. You show up solid and secure from the start revealing pieces of the puzzle.
If both of you always hang out in groups, find tactics to swerve them for a bit for some private time with her. It doesn’t have to be some fancy thing it could be as simple as a walk in the park. Just make sure the alone time leads to something deeper don’t waste your chance by hanging around her without making your intention clear. This is the opportunity to make a lasting impression otherwise you’re risking the friends’ zone. Be straight to the point with her.
She is not the one if you feel no need to respect her; unless you have trouble respecting women it’s crystal clear that if you don’t respect her from the beginning you won’t respect her later. You’ll just waste the time for the both of you, and like always end up nowhere again.
Ask Her Out
If you have played it cool until now, step up and take it to the next level. That’s right man, ask her out for dinner! If she’s up for it then lucky you, you are one step ahead of the curve. If she says no, just leave it at that respectively walk away don’t sweat her anymore go back to hunting.
Only a joker would shuffle on a king, remember?